Taking a lesson from our kids
As parents we are so busy trying to hold it all together.
We worry about our parents, our children, our friends, our jobs, the animals, etc.
It’s. So. Overwhelming!
Part of the pity party referenced in our last post might include acknowledging what we are missing.
I thought this graphic communicating what a child was missing these days (shown above) was so simple, yet powerful! What a great way to gain insights on why a children might be struggling emotionally.
(The graphic is courtesy of my friend Kim Brahm, a pediatric Occupational Therapist at The Balanced Kid in Westmont, IL.)
What do you miss?
Aren’t we as adults missing a lot of things too?
To acknowledge loss is often a starting point in being able to make a change. Being real about what we miss allows us to explore why we miss it.
Try it …. stop, and reflect on what you are missing. Why are you missing it? What about it can you substitute? And what is just going to be different? And what opportunity does this allow?
Here are three things I find myself missing these days.
#1 I miss being able to see friends and family, which also means I miss the travels involved with seeing them scattered around the US.
#2 I miss being able to give hugs and shake hands. It is so odd to meet someone new and not shake a hand! And it feels shallow to greet dear friends, colleagues, and family without a hug.
#3 I miss going to cultural things. I frequently stopped at the Chicago Botanic Garden when I left the office on Saturdays. The Chicago Art Institute textile exhibits and taking in a variety of music at Ravinia were always a treat. I miss these!
Sometimes your ability to cope needs a boost from others.
In a recent BLOG post we discussed how physical trauma impacts kids ability to handle stress.
At Kinetic Konnections, we find that some parents have their own set of physical traumas that have built up over the years, impacting the ability to handle stress. This physical stress makes it hard to relax and calm in general, especially in this stressful school season!
The parents we help are amazed that after one or two sessions they are better able to navigate their child’s behavioral challenges and keep their cool in the moment.
Our goal at Kinetic Konnections is to keep your body optimally organized to behave, focus and be active for the things you enjoy in life.
Our wishes to all for a smooth transition into the Fall!